Living with a Tantric Mongoose - Shantam Nityama

What you can never be

Anything that you claim about yourself - I am this, that or the other - anything that you can claim in that way that has even the potential in changing, is not you. So, “I am,” is when you’re speaking about the beingness, the god in you. It is absolutely changeless. That part of your being is changeless. There’s nothing changing about it. It’s the same as it was, and it ever will be. So, we can play and put on many different coats throughout our whole experience here on the planet. On any given day, it could be any thing. I could get up in the morning and say, “I am a doctor. I am a this. I am a that.” and then I can change it tomorrow and say, “I am a bum. I’m not working.” So, anything that you can put on like that and change, or even have the possibility of changing, is not really who you are, and can never be who you are.

- Nityama

Intelligence needs variety

Intelligence needs variety. I don’t care what you think. You need a variety of different people to talk to in order to stay intelligent. You need a variety of different people to interact with in your life, in order to be intelligent. This is a must to intelligence. You show me a man, woman or anybody that has lived their whole life in the same house and the same town, with the same dog, and the same car and the same job, I’ll show you an idiot.

- Nityama

To the women...

Orgasmicness is your nature… you are orgasmic beings. This is your gift that you bring to the planet. You have made the trees grow; they grow because you’re smiling and you’re celebratory inside. Now the trees are dying, cause y’all are dying. You hadn’t even noticed yet. And most of you are still concerned about the men. I say, first get yourselves in order, and you’ll be amazed to see that you and everything around you starts to flourish without you having to do anything. But first you’ve got to come back home. You’ve got to come back to this beautiful self and see how wondrous and how glorious it is and how incredibly powerful it is.

- Nityama

Balancing work-responsibilities and love

What is the most effective way for a man and a woman to balance life in the world of work-responsibilities and love?

Thomas,

     Ultimately, my answer would be for you and your woman to find ways to use your creativity to create some service to give to your community. This way you could quit your jobs. That's the ultimate, because in order for a man or a woman, or a man AND a woman, to really be free, to structure their lives in a way that is suitable for them, they need their freedom. At the same time, I realize that this is not an immediate or a short term solution to the predicament. So, in light of that, I suggest that you and your wife, remove all unnecessary things that you do, from your life, (apart and aside from working), so that you have more space for quality time together when you are actually off work.
     I also highly recommend that you possibly schedule a time for doing those things which will help to balance out the rat race aspect of the life, lovemaking being one of them, and raising it to the highest quality that it's capable of being. That alone will help you to remove some of the psychic toxicity that being out there in the world and working creates inside. It's really learning how to use sex as a way of balancing some of which you encounter out there in the world. In the process of using that, you've just balanced a couple of things all at one time. You balance the work, you balance the coming together, and being intimate.

Nityama

Healing Power of Conscious Sex - Extatica Radio Show

3 Segment Interview with Ellen Eatough (September 13th, 2005)
 
Segment 1:
In this segment Ellen Eatough and Shantam Nityama discuss the correlation between sex and spirituality. Find out how men and women can come together for conscious healing through sex. They also discuss how to stay in touch with your innermost being during sex so as to awaken your spiritual consciousness.

Segment 2:
In this segment, you will discover that the way to opening a woman's heart differs from that of a man. Learn the different methods. You will also hear how to help your partner become comfortable with their nudity. Discover also how to become in tune with your internal flow of energy in order to facilitate healing emotional and spiritual wounds.

Segment 3:
What is the difference between romance and love? Why does a man come to a woman? How does one create conscious love making in committed relationships, in open relationships, in same sex relationships. In this segment, Ellen Eatough and Shantam Nityama answer these questions and more.

To listen to the interview, please follow the link below:

www.extatica.com

Disclaimer

     Much of the energy that goes on within the community is set up to be so safe. There is something I want to say to those of you even thinking about interacting with the sexual energy or playing in the whole tantric arena, (even though the tantric arena in the West is way watered down to what it is anywhere else). The paces which you would get put through anywhere else, in Africa or in India, or any of those places, most of the psychological make up of most westerners wouldn’t even be able to stand it, because it is not just dealing with sex. It is dealing with you coming to grips with all of the opposites that you deal with in your life, and bring it into a oneness. All this fear and the catering to fear that we have and all these ideas of safety, and keeping people safe… there is no such thing! No such thing exists on this planet. There is nobody taking care of you. You’ve got to be conscious and present and in your body. So, what I would love to see, is all of you be able to leave here and go out in the world totally unafraid to risk your life, to have a life. You’ve almost got to put your life on the line in order to fully live. So, if you’re totally looking for safety, if you’re looking for somewhere, where you’re not gonna be uncomfortable, maybe you picked the wrong place. So, I wanna do a disclaimer up front that you might get a little uncomfortable… I don’t know. But I know that if you will go through whatever uncomfortableness arises, you will be a bigger person for it. Now, will I be doing anything to make you intentionally uncomfortable? No. I have no desire to do that. But at the same time, will I push your buttons? Maybe. I’ve been known to do such things. And I tell you too, any person you come around, if they’re carrying energy, they’re dangerous. Even when I come in contact with women just in general, in my life, I let them know up front, I’m totally lethal. Death is practically immanent. Meaning that everything which you have known and thought was important about you is totally at risk, because most of what you’ve known and thought about yourself is far from real. And when people start snatching these things away, you’ll start screaming bloody murder.
- Nityama